Over time we all develop in many different ways. The people with whom we used to party or enjoy sports may now be settled with children and absorbed with family responsibilities, others may be career focussed and living a jet-set life, some may be single and still enjoying partying and the club scene.
It can be fun to have reunions and enjoy catching up with each other, hearing the gossip, seeing how we have all changed. But if the whole of our social life is involved with people from our past it may well be that we need to consider the quality of our friendships, reflect on their influence in our lives. Nostalgia is fine on occasion, but improving the quality of our friendships and having different types of relationships can offer much in many other ways.
Some ways to improve the quality of your friendships:
- Duty can be an important part of friendship. There may be people with whom you spend time out of tradition, loyalty, continuity. They have known you all your life, better than anyone. But those connections and memories may be something that needs to be minimised at times. A positive influence is important, but if someone from your past is negative or unsupportive, keeps trying to hold you back, it may be time to consider removing their ability to influence you.
- Good friends should be prepared to listen and demonstrate respect for your worries and concerns at times when you need their support. Having someone who understands that you just need them to listen, or that you would benefit from their input and advice is important. Feeling safe and not judged for your behaviour or dilemma is a valuable part of a quality friendship. Quality friends are there for you when you need them.
- Compromise is important in relationships, but compromise works both ways. Your ideas deserve to be listened to, your suggestions should be valued and discussed. If your friends don’t appear to be interested in the activities, new ideas, things that you suggest maybe it’s time to introduce other new people who do.
- Confidence may need to be improved so you can introduce changes to suit you better. Many groups establish a certain dynamic, a regular, comfortable way of doing things. For some people continuity and predictability may well be fine. It’s an easy option to know where the gang meet regularly. Other people may prefer to dip in and out of such a rigid arrangement and use their free time in a variety of ways. Find the confidence to start voicing your own opinions and preferences.
- New people come into your life from many sources, work, the gym, introductions. There needs to be receptivity, an attitude of mind that welcomes friendly, positive new people into your life. Enjoy the opportunity to try new activities, appreciate their way of thinking, the new energy they bring into your life. It is important to make the time to nurture those relationships. Even meeting for coffee or lunch needs time to be allocated.
- Doing the things that you enjoy with people you like is an important commitment to yourself and your quality of life. Good friends deserve attention. They are the people who care about you, give good advice, understand where you’re coming from, the things that motivate or worry you. Having genuine people who have your best interests at heart is special. Even if you disagree with them or choose not to follow their advice the fact that they still respect you and stay friends is the sign of a quality relationship, a true friend.
Positive relationship support you and help you function better in your life. When you surround yourself with people from the different areas of your life you provide yourself with an important support network, the people who share your dreams, concerns, understand what your issues are. Some may be people from your past, others may have been acquired more recently. Making time and space in your life for quality friendships is important. Sometimes that requires letting go of the less supportive relationships.
Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief, with couples in crisis to improve communications and understanding and with business clients to support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams.
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In zodiac, is the natal facet of venus conjunct mercury give each attraction and passion for the mercury – ruled zodiac signs gemini and virgo?
they are all tragic heroes…
thank you for y’alls help!
There’s this person that continues appearing within my dreams, and it is beginning to slip me out. He’s someone Irrrve never meet before only a figure of my imagination. His image is really obvious imy my thoughts once i awaken too. What exactly exactly shall we be held going through?
From what I have heard, your venus sign shows clues in regards to what kind of lady he’s attracted you, his venus is really a polar complete opposite of my Sun…is that this a positive thing?or is he going to be repelled with this polar oppsite-ness?
i’ve got a best frnd from very long time gradually progressively we began loving one another deeply she isn’t within my country and based on her it wasn’t simple for us to become together therefore we made the decision to locate our partners everything was fine however personally i think she isn’t exactly the same not same importance not time … not too same effection things are transformed she’s making her very own world i’m just standing & watching i can not do without her she’s within my dreams within my breath everywhere but each time i speak with her or contact her personally i think my sweetheart missing … should i be not in contact with her i recieve worried like hell & she just don’t get in touch after i contact her i recieve more hurt even when she don’t say anything wrong my brain has eliminate she’s throughout me i can not smile can’t work can’t cry can’t even complaint to her might be she’s right what shall i actually do she stated we are best frnd however i am so confused can not be without her but can’t together with her too me going insane plzzz plzzz help plzz
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I love to perform a small poll: if you would need to choose five characteristics among individuals the following which are essential for you inside your partner, and rank them in importance, which may you select? Please indicate your gender which of the partner. I’ll publish the outcomes from the poll here under “Particulars”.
Listed here are the characteristics to select from (alphabetic order):
Mindful, focus on detail
Attractive and keeps body fit
Good mother, good father
Healthy self-esteem
Mental connection and friendship
Open-minded
Same return and believe system
Sensual and powerful libido
Sensitive and emotional
Strong and independent
Encouraging and caring
And here my very own list (for example):
(I’m male, my parter female)
1. Mental connection and friendship
2. Sensual and powerful libido
3. Open-minded
4. Good mother, good father
5. Healthy self-esteem
You may also add something if you feel it’s important and this is not on their email list… like spontaneity (extremely important… just didn’t remember!)
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luv and SAI RAM,
jk
Your religion / relationship with God.
Note to atheists, yeah yeah… I understand you don’t believe there’s a god.