Watching romantic movies with your loved one while cuddling and eating delicious snacks is always a fun activity for a relaxed evening. But when you’re in a long distance relationship, that’s a different story…
Chances are, you haven’t seen your partner in weeks or even months. So you deeply miss the feeling of holding their hands and sensing their touch.
But there is good news for you…
Missing your loved one so much and longing for a kiss or a hug, brings you this unique special sensation that other couple who are always together miss out or take for granted.
So even though you may not get the chance to cuddle on the couch together tonight, you can watch one of the inspiring romantic movies below that will bring you a sweet smile, while feeling warm and loved inside.
Because the truth is, love is love. And it is REAL. Whether it’s sitting next to you on the couch… or 5,000 miles away.
So why not celebrate your long distance love with a movies. And here you go…
1. The Notebook
One of the best (if not THE best) romance stories about true love and the fact that it will last a lifetime – despite unlucky circumstances that would normally break typical couples up.
2. Love Actually
Beautiful story of the ups and downs we face in the path of love. Because the truth is, this journey may not always be sweet and happy. Sometimes it brings us tears and heartbreaks. But at the end of the day, it’s the lessons we learn from these experiences that helps us stay strong and keep our faith in love.
And you know better than anyone else, that in the journey of long distance love, faith in each other and keeping our hopes alive is more important than ever. It may be tempting some days to lose track of it. So movies like Love Actually are a helpful reminder for this fact.
So who says love is only as long as “death do us part”? Now here is a lovely movie that proves otherwise.
And the idea of your partner’s presence right next to you – even while they’re far away – is a great touch for us folks in a long distance relationship.
4. You’ve Got Mail
Have you met your partner online? Or perhaps you first met in person but now for some reason you are apart and in touch online. Then you’ll enjoy relating to this sweet story.
It’s an oldie but goodie that warms you up with smiles all along.
5. 50 First Dates
When you and your loved one are away, the lack of physical connection can cause distance between you over time.
That’s why the idea behind this brilliant movie makes even more sense. Even while being far away, you can plan fun creative ways to “go on a date” together and spice things up. Making up for the distance, this movie gives you the perfect inspiration to keep the passion alive!
It is not simple to keep a long distance relationship as you need to establish trust for this relationship to work but in a world where temptations are hard to reject, are love and trust sufficient to keep the relationship secure? It’s difficult enough to work on a long distance relationship if you’re not ready to face the troubles ahead. Underneath are 3 main concerns a long distance relationship goes through and things to do to work them out.
Telling lies can become a habit in long distance relationships.
It is easy to lie when you are far from each other and the only way that connects both of you is either a phone call or an email message. Even breaking promises is a variety of lying. Make a pledge to be truthful with your mate. This will be difficult and you might err at times but if you have a commitment to honesty it will be less likely to lie deliberately.
Putting faith in your partner being far away is simple to do. In a long distance relationship, it is sometimes hard to trust your partner. Admitting that you have control over your partner’s movements will make it a little bit less difficult. If you determined that your relationship was strong enough for a long distance relationship you need to have faith that your partner will do the honorable thing by you. It doesn’t mean that you have to bear being maltreated or being cheated on. It just means that if you do suspect something that you bring it up to them in a calm conversation instead of assuming that they are liable automatically.
Misconceptions and disagreements.
Uncertainties often sink in when you are away from each other. You often fail to see the value of your relationship and of each other. You or your partner may at times have difficulty contacting or calling each other, which makes it a tricky situation when the other starts to imagine something else entirely. That’s why it is important that you and your partner have an open communication where every worry you both have about your relationship can be discussed. Keeping things in will not help, it will only worsen the situation and soon you will want to end the relationship because a lot of little things have accumulated.
It is important to make time to air out any concerns or problems to resolve, time for serious discussion without apprehension that your partner will get angry or judge you. Ultimately it will be up to you to create the sort of long distance relationship you want. Every long distance relationship is different, it’s up to you and your partner to establish the way you want your relationship to operate.
My name is Robyn Lee and I am a dating and relationship coach to women. In the beginning, I made many dating mistakes that caused me to be single longer than I wanted. I have since learned how to survive a long distance relationship with my Prince Charming. Now I share my understanding with other women so they can survive long distance relationship as I have done with my Prince Charming.
Something that I have noticed when talking to guys who have struck out miserably when it comes to online dating, is that they commonly fall into a trap without even realizing it. And, as long as they stay in that trap, the odds that they are going to have any success when it comes to online dating is pretty much nil. So, what is this online dating trap?
It’s the idea that using an online dating site is like using a site like Facebook and it is so not that way at all.
Why do people use Facebook and other sites like that?
It’s to network mostly with friends, family, and acquaintances. When it comes to online dating sites, the game should be played a bit differently. You are not there to make friends or provide status updates, you are there to meet women you can take out on a date and hopefully hit it off with one of those women so that you end up with a girlfriend. Right?
So, here is an example of what I mean: Joe signs up to an online dating site and he starts messaging women in a very friendly context. Day in and day out, he keeps in contact with those women, still in the same friendly context, but never takes it to a level above that friendly context.
After a while, Joe concludes that internet dating sucks, because he doesn’t have any actual dates? He’s got women that he is messaging once in a while, but no dates.
That is the trap.
What you have to do is take things beyond that friendly context at some point, because like I said and like you know deep down is true, you don’t try to use an online dating site to build friendships and pen pal kind of relationships with women.
You do it because you want to get dates and eventually end up with a girlfriend.
Keep that in mind when you join a dating site. It’s not Facebook and you are not trying to build up a list of friends. At some point, you have to show your attraction to a woman and you have to flirt with her so that you can get her to where she wants to meet up with you.
If you don’t, you’ll just end up as another average Joe that strikes out when it comes to online dating and declare that it sucks, when the reality is that you just didn’t play the game the way it was meant to be played.
Web Dating with integrity builds the foundation for a lasting relationship. If you are divorcing from your spouse, do you need to wait until you receive your divorce decree to start dating again? How can you handle your marital status in your online dating profile at the dating sites with integrity and honesty and still get dates while you’re in the midst of your divorce?
Online dating is a great way to see the things you have in common and to form a relationship around the factors that really matter as opposed to trying to make it work with someone you’ve been set up with or a friend of a friend. Online dating gives you the opportunity to talk to the person in the comfort of your own home and be truthful about what you want and what you have to offer in a relationship. Dating can be hard and finding someone that you want to spend your life with is possibly the hardest search you will ever take on. It’s best to do everything you can to make sure that life partner is someone you enjoy on all levels.
After you’ve talked to your prospective date online and you’ve determined you’re a good fit, the next step is to set up a place to meet to get one another better and have a real dating experience. While caution should be taken when meeting people online, it’s also important to make sure that it’s a place that will make you feel safe and a place where you can have a great time.
Choosing a public place like a bar or a restaurant is always a great idea. If you have a local bar that you frequent and enjoy or whether you want to try out a restaurant you’ve never been to, choosing a venue where there will be a number of other people is a great choice. Not only will it make you more comfortable and give you something to talk about if the conversation lulls, it’s also much safer than meeting somewhere alone.
There are a number of great, public places that make for a great first date location. Whether you want to sit at a bar and get to know each other, listen to a band you love play, or do something active like rock climbing or visiting the zoo, finding a place that you will both enjoy is easy. The location you choose for your first date also says something about you and what activities you enjoy or if possible what you have in common. If the relationship works out, it may be a venue that you’ll visit often to celebrate anniversaries, so make sure it’s a place you enjoy and one that you’ll love to go back to.
Making sure that you choose a great location for your first date can set the mood for your whole relationship, so pick somewhere you will be comfortable, like the ambiance or somewhere you have discussed with your date. You should choose a place that will not only ensure that you will have a great time, but choose a venue where you know you won’t be alone and will make you feel safe. Get your relationship started on the right note with the perfect first date location.
Love will conquer the distance. Isn’t it an interesting thing to know that love can do something that is unbelievable, such as maintaining a stable long distance relationship with your boyfriend? But, why the last time you call your boyfriend, he didn’t answer? Why he didn’t reply to your text messages and emails? Is there something wrong with him? Is he beginning to pull away from you?
Various thoughts will start to fill your mind with assumptions and guesses. Though not all of them are true, there is still a big possibility that your boyfriend is cheating on you over there. Well, you can’t see him and what he’s doing, right? That’s why it’s possible that he’s cheating. But, stop your bad thoughts for a while. If you’ve been having a bad long distance relationship with your boyfriend, then it’s time for you to ponder, not to assume what might be happening to him.
You know, this will help you to calm down. When you have a difficulty in maintaining your long distance relationship, then it’s time to change your strategy. Why? That’s because you can’t do the same thing and expect different result. For instance, if you’ve been trying to call him all day, every hour, then you should stop it right now. If you’ve been sending numerous emails to him during the past three days, then stop it right there. Let the things melt. Let the things take its course.
You need calmness. Remember that you don’t need to do something in order to accomplish something. Sometimes, doing nothing will help you to accomplish everything. That’s why you need to wait, and see how things are going. Wait for a few days. Don’t do anything. Don’t send him texts and don’t call him.
Will it help you to accomplish things? Of course, by stop doing whatever you are doing right now… by stop being needy toward him, he will come to you. Think about it in his perspective. He has seen many emails and missed calls from you in the past few days, and now he doesn’t see any of it. What will he do? Of course, he will wonder why you aren’t sending any more messages to him. And if you keep waiting long enough, he will eventually call you just to know what’s going on. At that time, you’ll finally talk with him.
You’ll talk heart to heart… trying to figure out how to fix your long distance relationship.
If you’re in a situation where you only have a couple of friends, if any, and those friends mostly bore you, ignore you or make fun of you, if you rarely have meaningful interactions with others and you spend most of your free time alone, then you need not only to enhance your social life, but to fix.
Because it is broken. And this is likely affecting your emotional state, your overall life satisfaction, and your productivity.
Fortunately, no matter how damaged your social life is, you can always repair it. Here’s how:
1. Get Some Hobbies
One of the best ways I know to meet new people is by taking on various hobbies that put you around people or involve social interaction. And meeting new people is a prerequisite for fixing your social life.
For example, take a few dancing lessons (in whatever style of dancing catches your eye). You’ll meet new people, you’ll dance with members of the opposite sex and you’ll learn a useful skill. Plus, you can then go to parties and use dancing as a way to meet even more people.
2. Be Social
By putting yourself in environments where there are other people, you’re making the first crucial step. But it’s not sufficient.
You want to also take the initiative, introduce yourself to others and chat with them. Standing by yourself in a corner and waiting for others will usually not do it. It’s important to be social yourself.
If you’re somewhat hesitant to talk to strangers, bear in mind they’re probably as eager to meet new people as you are. I can tell you from experience that, especially in the context of a class or a party or an event, most people are quite friendly and open to being approached.
3. Make New Interactions Happen
With some people you will connect more than with others. It is with these people you connect with the best that I encourage you to keep in touch.
You can rely on just meeting over and over again by having the same hobby, but what if one of you eventually quits it? It’s just not a good option.
A much better idea is to exchange contact details with the people you get along well with, and then get in touch with them and generate future interactions.
For example, give them a phone call and ask them to meet you for a beer or a coffee or something. That’s the most straightforward way to build a relationship.
4. Be Genuine
If when you interact with others, you put on a façade in order to please them, they will usually realize this, sooner or later.
And while they may appreciate the fact you want to please them that much, they will also see you as fake and untrustworthy, which makes it hard for your relationship to develop. A strong relationship requires trust. This is why being genuine is a must for fixing your social life.
There you have it: a simple and practical formula for fixing your social life. It brings new people into your life and it strengthens the relationships with the most potential, which almost guarantees a rich and fulfilling social circle for you.
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Even when a divorce has been straightforward or amicable many people experience a confusion of feelings. There is often a feeling of having failed, despair at the upheaval of dismantling a relationship that had been intended to last forever. Many people experience serious financial implications after their divorce and often there are children to consider.
Bitterness is an emotion that often features too. There may be bitterness that the divorce has happened, a sense of frustration that if the other person had been more reasonable, tried harder the relationship could have been saved. Relationship counselling can help to deal with the communications aspect of a breakup. If both parties are willing, it can be a valuable tool in facilitating the breakup and help with reconciling what is happening through better understanding of each others point of view.
If one person appears to be moving on relatively unscathed the other person may feel bitter in an ‘it’s alright for them’ kind of way. If that person was the prime mover in the divorce they may seem to have the upper hand. If they then move into their single status with apparent ease, have a lovely new home, a social life, new friends and money coming in it can be very hard for their ex-partner to swallow.
Determination to move on and take some control is an important step towards recovery and dealing with the bitterness of a divorce. Simple steps are the best ones to take at first.
- Sort out the finances. Everyone needs money to live and support any quality of life. Many people feel bitter and angry about their finances in the aftermath of their divorce. Often their levels of security and comfort have changed for the worse. Starting to gain some control of their finances requires becoming more proactive and engaged in moving on, letting go of some of the bitterness and starting to become an independent person again.
- Let others help, at least at first. Other people can help to ease some of the bitterness and enable an appreciation that many people care, are basically good and want to help. People may offer practical help like money, food, a place to stay, or emotional help like companionship and a ready ear to listen. Even if it’s out of character allow others to help, take some of the burden and provide support for a time.
- Make home a comfortable, safe retreat. Having a pleasant place to return to, where it’s easy to relax and unwind is an important part of the healing process. Even if money is tight there are little touches that can help personalise a place. Make sure that there are plenty of bright colours, lovely fabrics, pictures, maybe plants so that home feels warm and welcoming.
- Occupation is important. Having too much time to think and grieve can lead to feeling depressed and bitter. A job is important, even if it’s part-time or volunteer work. A job provides a reason to get up in the morning, have a wash, look smart. And confidence improves as new skills are learned, friends are made and little successes achieved.
- Accept invitations. Even ones that do not appear to be especially thrilling may lead to making new friends or turn out better than initially envisaged. And socializing distracts from having too much time for introspection.
- Agree to undertake counselling to deal with negative thoughts and behaviour concerning the divorce, or to remedy any underlying patterns that may have been a factor in the divorce.
- Review friends. Some friends choose to walk away after a divorce. They may have loyalty towards one person, or feel that a newly single friend doesn’t suit their lifestyle. It’s a good opportunity to commit to having only positive people as friends from now on.
Feelings of bitterness are often a consequence of being hurt, let down and betrayed. As healing and a new life start to take shape the bitterness subsides, confidence improves and the rawness of the feelings following the divorce gradually become less distressing. Utilising the help and support available can help in moving on as positively as possible.
Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief, with couples in crisis to improve communications and understanding and with business clients to support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams.
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Each of us is blessed with 24 hours in every single day. With that blessing come many hard choices as to how we spend our time. How will we use each of those hours? Too many times we get caught up in believing we don’t have any choices when it comes to our days. That’s a lie we’ve too easily believed. Everything is a choice! We make thousands of them every single day. For example, you decide what time you’ll get up (you may have to be somewhere by a certain time, but you still decide if you’re actually going to be there or not), what clothes you’ll wear, what you’ll have for breakfast, which way you’ll walk to the kitchen, whether to fix your hair, brush your teeth, pack a lunch and on and on it goes.
We feel trapped when we take on too many responsibilities. There are plenty of legitimate responsibilities – keeping a roof over your head, food and clothes are things that need to happen, but how they happen are all choices.
I talked a lot about being too rushed in how we spend our time during my monthly consulting group meeting. Why did I spend so much time on that? Because it’s an epidemic in our society, especially for women. We take on SO much, are exhausted, cranky and feel as if we have no choices. Well, I’ll stand here screaming at the top of my head – even if no one else will listen – you do have choices! You do not have to live that way!
How we spend our time – choices
It all starts with values. What do you value? Don’t just throw out an answer here – I really want you to think about it. What’s most important to you? Now, here’s where the truth will come out… what we TRULY value, THAT’S how we spend our time. Do yours match? If they don’t, then what have you just discovered about what you value? It can be hard truth to swallow. For example, if I say my family is what I value most, then am I investing more time in them than anything else? More than work, housecleaning, errands, etc.
This month’s focus was on the Fruit of the Spirit of Kindness. Colossians 3:12 tells us to “put on tender mercy and kindness as if they were your clothes.” It’s an action and a choice wrapped into one. One of your choices every morning is what to wear. This is no different. You choose to wear kindness or wear meanness. At the same time it requires action. You can’t just choose what clothes you’re going to wear – you have to physically put them on! The same with kindness. Once you decide to focus on being kind, you’ve got to put that choice into action by looking for opportunities and then being obedient to follow through when they present themselves.
So here’s where the hard part comes in. Have your choices with how you spend your time boxed you in so much that you don’t have time to be kind? Huh? What do I mean by that? Are you so busy and rushed that you don’t even see opportunities that might present themselves? In your hurriedness do you pass right by people who may need a kind word or gesture?
What’s one small action you can take today to look for opportunities to “put on” kindness?
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There are so many good reasons to rebound back from getting divorced and try your hand at dating again. For one, you probably don’t want to end up one of those lonely guys who is still talking about his ex wife ten years from now. That’s not exactly the brightest future is it? Not only that, you want to rebound back as soon as you can so you don’t get rusty. One of the things that you have to do if you want to do well with women is have an active social life and the only way that is going to happen is if you are ready to get back out there and try your hand at dating again.
Here are some tips for newly divorced guys that want to have some fun again and meet some women:
1) You won’t attract too much attention from women if you are too focused on the past with your ex wife.
No matter what, you need to be able to let go of your past experience with your wife and not allow it to consume your thoughts. No woman wants to meet a guy who constantly brings up the ex wife or the divorce, so make it a point to try and push that to the background if you can. Sure, the topic of your divorce may come up, but it shouldn’t be the focus of your conversations with women.
2) It’s sometimes easier to meet women when you go out with a friend.
It’s usually much harder for guys to meet women when they are by themselves. A lot of that just has to do with the fact that is easy to feel self conscious and out of place when you go somewhere to meet women and you are all alone. Grab a friend, grab a co-worker, and head out with someone so that you don’t feel self conscious or all alone.
3) Most women are far more attracted to guys who seem to be able to bounce back from adversity, so that is something that you can highlight about yourself.
Being able to bounce back from your divorce in a healthy way is one of the easiest ways to show a woman that you are not the kind of guy who will let life get to him too much. So, in that way you can turn a seemingly negative situation around and turn it into a positive for yourself.
It’s not that hard to get back in the dating game if you know what women are attracted to and you use that knowledge to make yourself appear more attractive to a woman.
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